Introduction: In recent decades, a psychological phenomenon called “gaslighting” has gained more and more attention. Although the term may be unfamiliar to many, it describes a form of psychological pressure and manipulation that can have serious effects on the mental and emotional wellbeing of those who experience it. Here we look at what gaslighting is and how it can affect people.
What is gaslighting?
Gaslighting refers to a form of psychological manipulation in which one person tries to distort another’s sense of reality and undermine their mental stability. The term comes from the 1938 play Gas Light, in which a malicious husband tries to control his wife by making her doubt her sanity and her grip on reality.
How does it work?
People who gaslight use various tactics to create doubt and uncertainty in their target. These can include controlling information, deflecting, twisting facts and dismissing the other person’s feelings.
Through these tactics, the gaslighter tries to gain control and power over the other person, who begins to doubt their own perception and reality.
Effects of gaslighting
Gaslighting can have serious effects on a person’s psychological and emotional wellbeing. Those who experience it may doubt their own judgment, lose confidence and self-esteem, and feel isolated and insecure.
In relationships, gaslighting can lead to exhausting and harmful dynamics, as the gaslighter seeks to dominate and control the other person.
Dealing with gaslighting
- Recognise the signs: It’s important to recognise the signs of gaslighting and take the situation seriously. Trust your own perception and talk to people you can rely on.
Restoring your sense of what’s real and rebuilding your self-confidence are important steps in dealing with gaslighting. Learn to spot the signs: if you feel you’re constantly being contradicted, your views and memories are being questioned, and you doubt your own judgment, that can be a sign that gaslighting is happening.
If you feel you’re constantly being contradicted, your views and memories are questioned, and you doubt your own judgment, that may be a sign of gaslighting.
- Reach out to people you trust: Seek support from people you trust—family, friends or a qualified psychologist or therapist. Share your concerns and ask for their perspective and support.
- Trust your own experience: Don’t dismiss your own perception and experience. Keep a journal where you note what happens and any times you feel things are being twisted. This can help you regain trust in yourself and keep a clearer view of what’s going on.
- Set boundaries: It’s important to set boundaries with the person who is gaslighting you. Recognise your rights and don’t allow yourself to be manipulated or pressured. Protect yourself and don’t let their toxic behaviour define how you see yourself.
- Seek professional help: If the situation feels serious and you feel numb or doubt your own wellbeing, seek support from a psychologist or therapist. A professional can help you rebuild your confidence and work through the effects of gaslighting.
Conclusion: Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that creates insecurity, uncertainty and self-doubt in those who experience it. By recognising the signs and working to restore your sense of reality and your confidence, you can respond more effectively to this form of manipulation.
Remember that you matter and deserve to live without psychological pressure. Gaslighting is a serious issue, but with the right support and response you can face it and reclaim your strength and confidence.
For more on healthy boundaries and self-awareness, see Empathy: How to Feel and Respond to Others’ Emotions and Thoughts on Self-Knowledge.
Happy Life Team
